Is love more than a choice?

I heard before I got married that love is a choice. That you have to wake up in the morning and make the conscious decision to love. This was coming from married and unmarried women alike. Love is a choice, and when made daily is the basis of a happy marriage.

Tonight I am wondering, isn't love more. Isn't love an action and a re-action?

I have also heard about falling out of love and that love isn't enough. Not very comforting ideas to a more or less newlywed couple. Aren't there other explanations for this? Can you fall out of love, maybe you were never really in love. How is love not enough, maybe there is only one party loving. Are these comments that come from people who have been happy & then poof, happy no more? or are they easy thoughts to have when you aren't willing to say, "You know I just give up, I am not willing to love you anymore."

And what about complicating things even more... is sex love? It is called the Act of Love, but that doesn't really constitute it love, does it? This makes me think of a recent movie my deer loving husband and I watched, Good Luck Chuck. In it he asks, "What's sex without love?" Funny enough his nasty little friend yells back, "It's still SEX!" 

So, are there really more choices in love- than "fate"? and if love- is a mental choice to make & how do we really choose and decide gets it?

Is there a fate of who we love?